Beyond therapy, there are many great books about sex and marriage you and your spouse could read together to get ideas. There's a time to serve. George Clooney and Ben Affleck round out the top three. Aug 24 Andrew Zaeh for Bustle It seems like it should be easy to tell how much sex you "should" be having , but many of us seem to worry whether we're having enough at some point in our relationship. Overdoing it pun most certainly intended just leads to boring, perfunctory hump-seshes rather than steamy hot I-need-you sex. A study in June found physical changes that occur as we age, plus how old we feel, both influence the experience of sex. For the most part, they described themselves as satisfied, however, many mentioned feeling like they should be having more sex, but that life got in the way. Americans appear to have the most sex at times a year, with the Russians close behind at times a year, the French at , and the Greeks at As one of the top five horniest people of all time, this initially seemed concerning to me, but as it turns out, it might not be such a big deal. The average person has sex times per year. That may seem obvious, but there's a persistent belief out there that quantity of sex correlates precisely with the happiness of a couple, with no upper limit. Instead, it's a call to excellence. Newsweek magazine found in its poll that married couples have sex about If you are the one with a comparatively lower sex drive , you must have found yourself surrounded by similar questions. So maybe tying the know helps when it comes to tax breaks, but it doesn't seem to do you favors in the bedroom. Our spiritual union with Him is echoed in every aspect of our earthly marriages, including sexuality. Sex is responsible for an increase in the levels of the hormone oxytocin , the so-called love hormone, to help us bond and build trust.