We've been led to believe that the choices women have are hormonal birth control or pregnancy and nothing in between. The model has since been adopted to support individuals who are engaging in sexual behaviors that put them at risk for STD infection. HPV and herpes are a little different , because they can also be transmitted through skin-to-skin contact with genital warts or lesions, respectively. The reason why sex health educators urge rolling on the rubber at the very beginning is because of pre-ejaculate. If you do later think you have a UTI, make an appointment at Family Planning or with your doctor to get some antibiotics. Perhaps they'd be better off encouraging better conversations. Pulling Out For those wanting to go even further without barrier contraception, there is the pulling out method , in which partners engage in penetrative sex until just before the point of male ejaculation, and then pull out so that his cum goes They may not be the result of a sexually transmitted infection, but could indicate other health issues. Not on birth control , ladies? Getting a check-up Go for a check-up if you have had unprotected sex and you have any unusual symptoms around your genitals vagina or penis , such as: It's up to you to collaborate with your partner or partners to figure out the amount of risk you feel comfortable taking on. It wasn't that anyone I spoke to didn't know how to use condoms, or that they were one of the few methods that protected against STIs, it was that they didn't feel they had the language to talk about them. I've had unprotected sex with about 15 men, in relationships and casually, and I can say I've used a condom about three times. All of this information is true for cunnilingus as well.