I always felt low afterwards, so my solution was just to keep doing it. The sex was great, but letting me tear her shirt in half was the best part because it was passionate and intense. I wanted very rough sex, I wanted to push limits, I wanted to feel powerless in the situation but by choice. Studies have shown that boys are more affectionate, even more expressive, than girls until they reach school age. Many are impacted by performance anxiety too, asking themselves questions like, "Will I be able to get an erection? The bedroom is one of the great stages of male performance, so what you see on TV is typically far from what can and should be delivered in reality. For example, if he's worried about his weight, maybe give him a sexy once-over and tell him how how buff he looks naked. Not only was it fun to use, but I loved how eager she was to try it. Yeah, sex is cool and all, but so is a more intimate physical connection with a partner you really love. This makes it more comfortable for him to talk about his own fantasies and will establish a baseline trust and safe space. He wants you to be direct. Sex can help ease many stressors in a relationship, but it can also cause stress.