Most of the men I treat, however, are highly invested in pleasing their partner through whatever means possible. Many women feel that receiving oral sex is the most intimate sexual act, much more intimate than intercourse. Despite the strides that have been made in body acceptance and — gasp! On one hand, there are couples who absolutely love going down on each other and consider oral sex to be a very important part of their sexual repertoire. If your partner is thrusting, your hand will prevent his penis from being pushed too far into your mouth. Some clients I see can get hung up with hearing constructive feedback from their partner about what they perceive to be their skill level in giving oral. So here's your guide to making the experience enjoyable for all parties involved. According to the National Survey of Family Growth, a nationally representative survey of adults in the U. In reality, there is a lot of variation in fellatio skills, and knowing how to read your partner, what to do to him, and when to do it can make all the difference. There's nothing wrong with you if you don't want to, but it's nice to let your partner know it's nothing personal. It shouldn't be any more ergonomically challenging. Many men who have sensitivity in their penis are particularly sensitive around the head known as the glans , especially the frenulum, an indentation between the glans and the shaft on the underside of the penis. When it came to who enjoyed giving oral sex, though, things flipped: What I notice is that for many people, there is still a drive toward defining sex, or satisfactory sex, as intercourse, as opposed to thinking about oral sex as an additional, very enjoyable option. We talked to 11 sex therapists about gender imbalances in oral sex, what they hear about it from the people they see particularly among heterosexual couples , and the advice they give when they see it causing an issue in relationships.