Every year scientists, PR reps and journalists concoct numerous surveys purporting to reveal what the average person thinks, feels and does during sex. If you don't feel as though you measure up, work on that confidence and realize that you totally do or else your partner wouldn't be with you. I hate playing pop-psych guessing games with these anonymous questions, but since the asker paid a whole five dollars for his account rather than using the standard anonymous method, he deserves to know that his methods of trying to clue us in to the fact that it's all her fault aren't very subtle. Just a data point. Having higher cortisol levels also throw your body off balance and keep sex drive low. Popular pursuits include long distance running, dancing, learning the guitar, abseiling, DIY, cooking, yoga and Tantra. I can honestly get absorbed in something for days, forgetting to eat and resenting interruptions. Work on finding satisfying sex High sex drives can be particularly tormenting for those who struggle to find sexual partners. And that is an ok decision, but you should acknowledge it as a decision, rather than pretending that you are seeking other options or that you are seriously engaged in a process of change. Unless you, as a couple, are making honest appraisals of what your issues are and acknowledging each other's efforts to overcome them, then this relationship isn't what it should be. Symptoms If you want to have sex less often than your partner does, neither one of you is necessarily outside the norm for people at your stage in life — although your differences may cause distress. Your commitment to her is so strong that you're willing to make drastic changes to yourself emotionally and physically to counteract the lack of sex in your relationship. I'm scared, from the way you describe her, that it's not. So, try to consider how she feels. Really push for the next tier management position, or move into something where you really need to struggle to keep up.