It's true that it wouldn't be the first time in human history a man has made what Borat calls a "romance explosion" while looking at naked pictures of a sexy woman. Okay, on to the, uh, kinks you and your husband have to work out in your relationship. But on the other hand, she said, "Give a guy a naked picture of a beautiful woman, he can no more help looking at it than I can resist a shoe sale. He thinks he's done nothing wrong and swears he loves me. All in all, though, having listened to his arguments and excuses, and conceded the point about snooping, I wouldn't go letting him off the hook too easily. Are they a metonym for someone who's just not that into me? Special to The Globe and Mail Published April 15, Comments The question I was snooping around on my husband's computer and discovered that he has naked and very pornographic pictures of his buddy's model-type girlfriend. Help him see the error of his ways, then drop it, and move on. And men are naturally so compartmentalized that, as he said, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you, or is not still attracted to you. You and your husband need to sit down and have a frank, honest, and open discussion about the incident, I think. It doesn't take Dr. I'm so hurt that while I was pregnant and post-baby he's likely been pleasuring himself with pictures of his friend's beautiful girlfriend. He describes it as a "joke," and then blames his wee-hour activities on lack of sex in your relationship, especially during pregnancy and post-partum, when we all know a couple's sex life naturally takes a hit - well, that's just plain off. Does he really need you to explain why using naked pictures of a friend's girlfriend for late-night frenzies of onanistic joy is less-than-ideal behaviour? Get in and get out quickly, on this one, I would say. What should I do?