My choice then to become celibate was so that I could completely focus on myself — figuring out who I was, what I wanted from life, and more importantly, learning to love myself. Celibacy is not about not being comfortable with having sex. They seek a new understanding of celibacy that is focused on God rather than a future marriage or a lifelong vow to the Church. Even if you constantly hear about the health benefits of sex , not having sex can also provide similar benefits. For people with a vagina: The best part is not worrying about pregnancy or STDs, but it helps in other ways as well. What does it mean if you never want to have sex? Getting to know a person is a lot more fun — inside jokes and sharing everyday life is much more enjoyable. If you want to read my blog on why I stopped having sex then you can read my blog here, to get the full story on why I made that decision. More blood flow to the vagina through intercourse can help keep the vagina healthy, Dr. Celibacy has actually brought about a lot of good things in life. The flip side, unfortunately, is that if you're not getting busy regularly, then you're not getting those benefits, and you may be more prone to illnesses and infections that your immune system would otherwise block. I did not know what being ruled by the flesh was until I actually realized that I had a little lust demon inside of me. To abruptly shift gears and set a new tone in a relationship is an obstacle that requires a higher level of faith and discipline that a year later, we still occasionally struggle with. If you intend to have sex eventually, this is the time to learn about your body and experiment with self-pleasure. You can lower your risk of developing a UTI through intercourse by going to the bathroom immediately after sex. When you have been abstinent for a little while and you have the excitement of a new partner, that can [increase libido again].