You can kind of see why — semen was suddenly dangerous, something to be afraid of, and with HIV a very different diagnosis back then, people were scared. This created some issues in terms of porn production, though. You missed my eye! The popularity of this sex act has left me asking the same question I was musing on ten years ago, the first time a man came over my face. Ruth Westheimer AskDrRuth August 11, Writer Dan Savage, however, takes a different stance, saying that the humiliation aspect of a facial is entirely real, but not a problem, writing: Are men being hoodwinked into thinking that women really get pleasure from these things? I like being the center of attention. Broadly speaking, the moment when fellatio became a central feature of sex was the film Deep Throat, a film which features a woman who had a clitoris in the back of her throat, therefore derives sexual pleasure from giving oral sex. While, once again, I am not in the business of shaming other women for what they get off on, it does seem strange that such a central focus of porn films is an action which has literally no physical pleasure for women. Dr Ruth Westheimer describes facials as humiliating in Sex for Dummies, and urges people not to consider them a normal part of intercourse. How do facials make you feel? He had, in fact, wanted to come on my face. So if ejaculating over someone rather than inside them could keep you safe, it seemed like a great idea. In the Metro. Experts seem to share a consensus that part of the appeal of a facial is the humiliation. Enough to make me properly sick. But then, any change in human sexual behaviour that came around the same time as the internet is automatically attributed to porn.